Differences are not fun when we are insecure
and trying to build our self-love by having another agree with our views in
order to feel good within.
Differences lead to conflicts at work where blaming the other for having a
different view point is sometimes the norm.
Differences in relationship result in breakup.
Differences between countries result in war.
Why do we have differences amongst us?
All humans are students on the path of life, expanding their ability to hold
grace under pressure, expanding their ability to love without conditions,
expanding their wisdom though life experiences without judgments.
Our idea of what is ‘our truth’ changes with time and experience. We have
different point of view at different stages in our life.
Our viewpoint on anything may be a result of:
1. Our denial of the inner feelings the real truth may bring up
2. Our need to feel superior by our adherence to a religious/political view
point
3. Our inability to break free from the view point of our parents, society or
authority figures
4. Our wisdom gained from experiences as of that point in our life
When there are so many dependencies on ones opinion on anything in life, how
can we expect the rest of the world to have our chain of thought?
Having a different view point is our birth right. We all need the freedom to
believe what is right for us, until we decide to make a change.
That right comes with being in a free country and being an adult.
So, is it not an act of ignorance to not allow another to have a difference in
the way thy think, act, dress, eat, pray and live their life?
When faced with difference, we can continue to speak our truth without
demanding the other to accept to our point of view.
Peace within us is a result of accepting those negative aspects within
ourselves we have a difference of opinion with what we project to the world. We
cannot change what we don't accept within us.
Peace in our outside reality is allowing difference in everyone we interact
with. We may not desire another person’s way of being, however we can allow
another person to experience the choices they have until they decide to change
it on their own.
From Narcissism to Empathy
Here are a few definitions for Narcissism:
·A
doctrine that individual self-interest is the actual motive of all conscious
action,
·Excessive
concern for oneself , exaggerated feelings of self-importance,
·Belief
ones thoughts/actions is superior,
·Deep
insecurity resulting in an addictive need for being appreciated and thought of
as special.
·A
consistent demand to be given a higher reward for work done.
·A
sense of entitlement. The inability to deal with life’s challenges due to the
belief ‘it is not supposed to happen to me’.
I would never have believed I was narcissistic until my
beloved spiritual teacher lovingly pointed out the behaviors of narcissistic
people. Lo and behold I found I shared the traits of a narcissistic individual.
I am generous and loving, and would not have caught the subtle energies of
narcissism that dominated my actions as a teen and adult.
Now that I have experienced narcissism, I can share how
it impacted me and how to heal from this emotion.
How did narcissism impact my life?
·I
was unhappy for the best part of my early life due to my need to inflate myself
and ‘prove’ myself to another through work and other accomplishments. The day
was filled with the desire to be one step above another. That is a lonely place
to be.
·I
was not able to find a job for a long time as I believed most jobs were ‘below’
my intelligence.
·I
could not have open hearted friendship as I was unable to have emotional
intimacy with another. I attracted narcissistic people in my life. Like
attracts like.
What makes a narcissist?
1.Emotional needs being neglected as a child.
2.Being raised up by a narcissist, whose
emotional needs were ignored when they were a child.
Hence the root cause is not something one can control as
a child; however it can be healed as an adult. This is what allows one to have
sympathy for narcissism. Do not judge a person by their actions now, try to
understand the root cause and then take action to help the person be complete
with that lesson.
Remember, a narcissistic person is more insecure that
you are, hence you can have more compassion.
How can you help a narcissistic personality heal emotionally?
1.Pay attention to their feeling and let them
know you are empathetic. Do this from a place of open heart. Avoid being phony.
2.Help the other know the equality in
creation. Discuss the law of karma – what you put out, comes back. Not having
the emotional needs taken care of a child is also karmic in nature. It is our
job, as an adult, to parent the inner child within us so we have the emotional
healing needed.
3.Define good boundaries and make sure your
needs are clearly articulated. Take care of yourself and let the narcissistic
personality know you matter. This step has to be lovingly done for it to not incur
further division. This will help the narcissistic personality slowly wake up to
start listening to another’s needs.
4.In severe cases I recommend therapy or
spiritual teaching from an advanced Emotional Healer. I recommend Dr. Carley J.
Henius (www.EmotionalHealer.com)
5.I recommend the following books:
a.Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol
Truman
b.Emotional Resilience by David Viscott
c.The Emotionally Abused Woman by Beverly
Engel
Simple steps lead to phenomenal results, when led with
patience and love.
Values and Virtues
I believe the grandest happiness in our human evolution
depends on our mastery of virtues and having a sound value system.
I grew up with the belief money was of the highest
value. I associated my power to the amount of money I owned and the job title I
held.
Life has a way of balancing everything when one is
passionate about self mastery – the mastery of fears and limited beliefs which
keep us in the Hamster wheel of momentary highs followed by a low.
I finally got it after years of contemplation, I found I
am in a happier place in life when I master virtues, and in order to do that,
my value system needed an overhaul!
I
had to stop valuing something that comes and goes and has a short life span.This included money, looks, job title, and approval from others! There is
nothing wrong about being affluent or having a great job, however it does not
define who I am! My relationship with everything material became more
fulfilling when I had a good foundation on virtues.
I had to find out what values help me to be in a
consistent state of OKness, with
consistent evolution to greater happiness each day.
When I value faith and patience, I no longer need quick
gratification. This avoids a whole lot of stimulants in the form of food,
gossip and meaningless television entertainment.
When I value equality and see everyone as my equal, I
find people treat me as their equal. The low income worker, my subordinate at
work, the homeless man on the street are all my equal. Each one is experiencing
the lessons they need to master, which is between them and God – I am not their
judge and jury!
When I value humility, I am at peace. I now have
realized I really know nothing in the scheme of all things.
The values and virtues in our life is what give us the
ability to master any life threatening challenges from a place of emotional maturity and grace. This
is when we have the power to be the solution.
An Invitation To Stop Worshiping Your Spiritual Teacher
I am from India where putting teachers on a pedestal and
worshiping them is the norm. I grew up thinking this is ok, as I believed that
teacher has the power of the Supreme Creator and she/he is divinely blessed by
the Creator.
As I grew up and emotional maturation started blooming,
which is a work in process, I realized there was something wrong with this
picture. Everyone on the spiritual path gets abilities to see Unseen Beings,
channel other great teachers from many realms, heal another, and to predict the
future. This has nothing to do with emotional maturity.No matter what powers a teacher exhibits, the
teacher is a student, alongside being a teacher,until they master all earth lessons and have
ascension.If the teacher allows
worshiping and encourages it, it is about their low self-esteem and an
invitation for them to do the work of emotional healing.
As the powers were given to me, I did take a few
missteps and my ego got in the way. I later realized, the powers given to channel great
teachers and divine beings can be easily misused by the unhealed unconscious
mind of the teacher. I wanted to be placed on a pedestal at one point due to my
insecurity and deluded myself for a short time. Wisdom came with experience,
and now I know no matter what powers are given to me, in my path of living in
truth and releasing my fears, I will always be a student even as I teach, and I
really know nothing in the scheme of all things.
A good teacher is one who helps the students stop
worshiping anything materially or not, and leads them back to the Creator
within them – a work in process for all of us.
Take a moment to use discernment before you worship
another human being. Not worshiping anything is a health way to be. You will
have greater devotion for the Creator and all of mankind when you can see God
in everyone. We are all a divine work in progress and every teacher has flaws
they are learning to overcome.Take what
is true in every teaching and leave the rest.
We are all
students at mastering loving communication. We are all evolving to a state of
peace and wholeness within the self, by mastering our fears and limited
beliefs.Here are some points I found
helpful towards having an openhearted communication at work and at home.
1. Open to
being wrong and willing to learn from anyone, irrespective of age, job title,
spiritual affiliations or any other differences.
2. Loving
our imperfections allows us to easily accept another person’s limitations.
Allow imperfections in self, while consciously working on releasing fears and
limiting beliefs every day.
3. Speaking
our truth in a nonjudgmental manner, in spite our fears and insecurities, while
allowing another the full freedom to reject our ideas.
4. Accepting
other person’s insecurities and allowing their evolution to wholeness in their
own time. Avoid emphasizing another person’s shortcomings, as that reflects our
insecurity.
5. Allowing
projection by others by mentally saying ‘I am going to hold the space for you
to hear yourself, so you can heal the aspect that thinks the problem lies
outside of yourself’.
6. Having
awareness of our projections onto others, by paying attention to the denial of
our own shadows or limiting beliefs.
Conscious
practice of steps 1 through 6 allows us to know when to be firm and when to
yield, all done with an even tone arising from a place of zero or less fear.
Sessions available to release fears and limiting beliefs.
I deeply contemplate on how I can help the world become united and heal
each other, and give a helping hand to the needy, without worrying about
what they lose materially in the act of giving.
There is a difference between unselfish action from unconditional love
and sacrifice/martyrdom. In my experience, unconditional love is based
on truth untouched by fears in the unconscious mind. Sacrifice/martyrdom
is based on fear and poverty thought. The universe is abundance itself,
and as a small part of the universe, my limited beliefs within my
unconscious mind can think I need to sacrifice, however when I see the
abundance from the Creator in another fearless thought, I feel sacrifice
and martyrdom is very limiting. We cant create abundance of
magnificence from a limiting thought.
How do we love another unconditionally?
We can’t really love another unconditionally until we can love our self
and our shadows unconditionally. When I could love my arrogance, love my
constant judgments towards myself and others running in my mind, love
my need for acceptance at the cost of not speaking my truth – I have
love for myself. I can now love the same arrogance, judgments, and lack
of speaking the truth in another. I know I am not better than anyone.
We all are simply working out our fears through life experiences and
coming closer to absolute truth at revealing all the hidden within us,
whereby open our hearts to love in abundance.
This is where empathy is born, the feeling of ‘I know what your
challenge is, and I feel your suffering and I want to do something to
help you end it.’
Until we can come to that place of unconditional love, we will create
difficulty, stress, physical challenges, and lose our happiness.
The choice is simple. However, walking it takes the greatest tenacity,
courage and faith in self in my experience. Living in truth does not
win any popularity contest with relatives & co-workers, however when
delivered with love and compassion in an non-judgmental even tone, a
few brave ones will be inspired to do the same to another.
That is unconditional love. I love myself so much I will reflect truth
back to you, and you can do whatever you want to do with it. Maybe love
another the same way…
My Miracle in 2010: To Know God Heard Me AT My Time Of Need
I have had some great challenges since last November 2009, which
included losing my home, leaving my child behind and moving to another state to
be taken care of by my brother, health challenges since Jan 8th requiring 2
hospital stays, besides not having the financial resources to start my own
living. This was new to me as I was financially very independent and earned well for
the last 10 years. I had a lesson to master here.
I cried to God and my spiritual teacher to give me a miracle as the medical
bills were huge and I had no means of paying it.
This morning when I woke up, I asked God and my teachers with great passion, to
give me a BIG success.
Within a couple of hours Yuma Medical Hospital called me and said they are
waiving the $15,000 I owed them!
A few weeks back Providence Medical Hospital Washington also waived the $15000
I owe them, again after I asked God and my teacher for a BIG success.
God gave me $30,000 and now I KNOW God hears me when earlier I was doubtful
about it to some degree. My faith is a
work in process and the more I see God in everyone, fully knowing each one is
evolving at the speed that is right for them, I can accept the world without
criticisms. The world is a caring loving place and there are wonderful people
out there. I just had to open my eyes to see them.
In order for me to change my reality to a one far better than what I had created, I had to say:
-No to Drama.
-No to Pessimism.
-No to Criticism.
-No to believing the past will repeat itself, knowing if I
do believe it, I will create it by the power of my thoughts and emotions
-No to blaming others for my creation, by not taking a chance, not learning new skills or not leaving a relationship when it was time.
And say
-Yes. I am a student and I am working on my
unconscious fears, every day.I will
set aside 1 hour every day, no matter how late or how early it is, for my
emotional well being and my happiness. Now I know what gives me true happiness,
it comes from within me when I am know I can change my reality to one I like,
by releasing all self-sabotaging programs every day.
-Yes. What I see in another person, that I don’t like,
is a lesson for me to see the same repressed shadow within me, or to learn
virtues like acceptance and unconditional love.
-Yes. I am going to get to know the Supreme
Creator one step at a time.God will reveal God at the level I can
handle without misinterpretation by my unconscious fears.
Love,
Maya
I have offered the powerful
technique of
releasing fears in my book The
Power of Illusion.
I
found the 3 gifts that make me happy are: Happy Health, Happy Wealth and Happy Love.
It word Happy changed my definition of health, wealth and love to something deeper
and stronger enriching my life beyond measure.
Happy Health
The
world is seeking good health and I did that too, for many years, and in that
journey I discovered the recipe that works for me.
Happy
Health results from 3 key points:
1.Handling our unresolved
emotional healing so we do not impact our physical body with the hidden stress
and sabotage our physical well being. Humans need a way to deal with unresolved
emotions. It can be drugs, food, sex, work, exercise and even spiritual
practices, which can all get out of balance if used as a method to feed unresolved
emotions held in the body and mind. Have a practice to write to the fear aspect
within and understand the purpose for having it, re-educate it and release it
from within the unconscious mind. I have offered the powerful technique of
releasing fears in my book The Power of Illusion.
2.Changing old Neural networks
that program the body to like a certain type of non healthy diet, and embrace a
higher way of energizing our sacred body. A good way to change a pattern is to
do a fast with Organic raw vegetable juice freshly prepared for at least 7
days, so the system is cleansed to a great degree. With this fresh start, start
the new healthy eating without gluten, sugar and/or dairy. Each one’s body is
unique and you will know your ideal food intake following conscious eating. You
will find it easier to stick to a permanent program if toxins are released from
the body. I have also observed the need for 30 days of deep self discipline to
change a behavior. Visualizing a healthy lifestyle, see yourself get
passionate about running a race or feeling light in the body. Do this exercise for at least 1
hour every morning, with eyes closed. This will help create new Neural Networks
in the brain. The more the visualization is done, along with releasing fears
daily, the thicker the neural pathway and quicker the manifestation.
3.Happy Health is a process and
not a onetime fix. As we make small changes every day, the more toxins are
released and we gain more strength and vigor in the body as the liver does not have
to struggle to release the toxins. The body gets into its natural detox
mechanism in the process of taking pure nutrition without pesticides and
hidden toxins.
Happy
Wealth
Happy
Wealth is a state that we arrive to when we are not led by money and material;
we are led by the joy of experiencing good things in life from a place of self
contentment with the knowing of who we are. We stop seeking wealth and we start
seeking Truth within us. The truth that cleanses us of all hidden negative
shadows like arrogance, lack of self worth, jealousy, envy, competitiveness and
anything that sabotages happiness.
When
we have the tenacity to not give up in life, and the courage to face any
challenge God gives us, we have a strong core within us that has greater power than
money in the bank. We are complete and nothing external can feed our needs in
an unhealthy manner. We enjoy all material from a place of great joy and
gratitude without being hooked on to it.
Money
comes and we share it with all who is needy and keep the continuous flow of
money - received in gratitude and given in generosity. This is a place of Happy Wealth. A place of
knowing I am worthy to desire God’s gifts and my value system is grounded in my
truth, loving God, loving my shadows and loving humanity and all creations through
eyes of equality
Happy
Love
A
love radiating from the truth within, not tainted by neediness or hidden agenda
is Happy Love.
It
is a good idea to take the time to discover who we are without a crowd
affirming what they want us to be. In that process of deep self discovery, we
get to release what does not serve our highest and embrace virtues. Isn’t life
finally about mastering virtues? Challenges teach virtues
like patience, tenacity, love, courage and faith. I have found my happiness to
be causeless and untainted by apparent physical limitations, when my virtues
are strong. God’s messages are clear to me in this state as my fears no longer not
block or alter divine messages. Every
few seconds of communicating with the Creator fills my heart with love. A love
that is causeless and loves ALL with zero judgments. A love that does not care
if the person Maya loses her money or job, but moves with a higher purpose to
have justice and serve the needy. That causeless love is a Happy Love, my heart
is open and love gently resides without fear.
I wish you great joy in
discovering Happy Health, Happy Wealth and Happy Love
It was easy for me to desire great spiritual
enlightenment and oneness with all of creation. However, taking the steps that
can lead to it was a challenge. In order for consciousness to evolve to a
higher state, we need to take stock of the current situation and ask the
question why enlightenment has not happened yet. Is it fears and limited
beliefs that is preventing us from being in a constant state of happiness?
We cannot live from a state of the highest wellbeing, when our unconscious mind
is cluttered with fears. Our limited beliefs will alter truth and make it a “convenient
truth”! Our devotion to what is really true, at the risk of losing all that we
hold as valuable, is what can allow our Truth to shine without alterations by
the unconscious mind. Remember, the unconscious mind can prevent revelation of hidden
fears out of self preservation. Truth
does not preserve anything other than Truth.
I love the cycles the ego sometimes takes until greater awareness resides
permanently.
1.The ego meets a challenge
2.It may give up thinking it can’t succeed
OR
it tries to do it expecting
instant results.
3.When success does not come after
repetitive attempts, the personality may give up thinking it does not work!
4.The next challenge arrives and back on
the cycle, this time with a lessened resolve to face life’s challenges.
The ego/personality may forget to have an honest
reflection on failures.
·Maybe the lesson was to see a core
limiting pattern and release it.
·Maybe the lesson was to master virtues
like tenacity, patience, courage.
·Maybe the delay was a karmic learning,
until good deeds fills up the positive karma bank.
In scientific researches to identify new solution
to medical conditions, the scientists work on many samples of data and study
all the effects, sometime spanning a few years, before they can claim a new product
works. Science does not work on instant results, unless you want a product that
has not been tested well.
The student of life, the computer engineer or spiritual healer forgets this
principle of Active Waiting.
Actively working on the project for however long it takes, and waiting for
results to show without ceasing the effort.
If the scientist and visionaries gave up hope on the winds turning in favor, we
would not have had the greatest inventions and masterpieces in history.
Thomas Edison'steachers said he was "too stupid to
learn anything." He was fired from his first two jobs for being
"non-productive." As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful
attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, "How did it
feel to fail 1,000 times?" Edison replied, "I didn’t fail 1,000
times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps."
Albert Einsteindid not speak until he was 4-years-old and
did not read until he was 7. His parents thought he was "sub-normal,"
and one of his teachers described him as "mentally slow, unsociable, and
adrift forever in foolish dreams."
Henry Fordfailed and went broke five
times before he succeeded.
Louis Pasteurwas only a mediocre pupil in undergraduate
studies and ranked 15th out of 22 students in chemistry.
Walt Disneywas fired by a newspaper editor because
"he lacked imagination and had no good ideas." He went bankrupt
several times before he built Disneyland. In fact, the proposed park was
rejected by the city of Anaheim on the grounds that it would only attract
riffraff.
After
his first audition,Sidney Poitierwas told by the casting director, "Why don't
you stop wasting people's time and go out and become a dishwasher or
something?" It was at that moment, recalls Poitier, that he decided to
devote his life to acting.
Beethoven handled the violin awkwardly and preferred playing
his own compositions instead of improving his technique. His teacher called him
"hopeless as a composer." And, of course, you know that he wrote five
of his greatest symphonies while completely deaf.
Van Goghsold only one painting during his life. This
didn't stop him from completing over 800 paintings.
AfterCarl Lewiswon the
gold medal for the long jump in the 1996 Olympic games, he was asked to what he
attributed his longevity, having competed for almost 20 years. He said,
"Remembering that you have both wins and losses along the way. I don't
take either one too seriously."
These visionaries did not give up hope. They
saw the success in the unseen.
Faith is taking a leap into the unknown, gaining the
wisdom with each leap, to reveal the presence of something greater than human
conditioning and fears.
"Our greatest glory is not in never
falling but in rising every time we fall." ~ Confucius
Do not give up no matter what!
When you fall down, take a couple of breaths down
there, check out the landscape, rethink your strategy, get back up and have a
go at it again.
The next time you fall down, affirm:
Failure
teaches me courage and tenacity.
Success
teaches me gratitude and service.
Thank
you God for this. So Be It.
Neither failure nor success teaches the virtue of Truth,
which is an existing character that
helps us to succeed in life. How we
react to failure and success is the measure of our emotional maturity and not
the actual outcome itself.
Affirmations for Faith
I
take a lead into the Unknown
I
know nothing in the scheme of all creation
I
allow God to be revealed to me in God’s time
I
have the tenacity to not give up until I am one with God.
Thank
you God for this. So be it.
Surrendering My Will To God
I cruised through life creating every moment based
on what I carried in my conscious mind informed by the fears in my unconscious mind.
Once in a while, my unconscious would allow messages from my Higher Self to
seep into my conscious mind without any alterations. That is when I get my
epiphanies and opportunities that help to raise my frequency and overall state
of consciousness. Not once in those moments did I contemplate on surrendering
my will to God. That was a fearful job for me as it meant I had to hand over my
control to another and I did not trust the unknown Source. I understand why my
unconscious mind had this fear as I had a belief the universe was not safe. The
reflex action in manifesting desires touch an existing Neuro Pathway in the
brain which carried the message ‘THE
WORLD IS NOT SAFE!’ So the idea of surrendering to God, though I wanted it
consciously, did not appeal to my unconscious. So I held on to my free will and
created life from what ‘I’ knew best based on past experiences. I did not try
new experiences as that was unsafe, that had the probability of not turning out
to be in my favor. Little did I know my past failure were due to several
reasons, some of it was associated with my Soul desiring for me to master
virtues, and some had to do with self sabotaging due to existing Neuro Pathways
having the hardcoded message ‘NEW THINGS
DO NOT WORK – STAY OFF. DO NOT RISK!’
Alas,
how we delude our self and call it ‘discernment’!
When illusion masquerades as ‘Truth’ we need knee high boots to shovel the
garbage out of the way before the real truth can shine!
Then God decided to place me in the right places
in life so I can learn precious lessons so I can reduce the unconscious self sabotaging
of my happiness. So what did God do? Well, the Beloved allowed me to feel the
effects of my past actions and experience my fears fully by bringing me to a
state of homelessness due to lack of finance, fear for personal safety with daily
crank calls, separated from my 14 year old son and uprooted from one state to
another state to live with my brother with whom I did not have a close
relationship. I stayed with my brother so I can discover what being part of a
family unit and tribe meant, as my relationship with the world was estranged.
Fear of being hurt dominated that decision.
In this new environment, I got to know my East
Indian culture which I had walked away in anger 15 years back. I got to experience
the openness of receiving, laughter every day, and being enveloped in the love
from my brother and sister in law. They took my financial burden and started
paying my bills. Knowing I was living a healthy lifestyle, they bought me
Organic food even though they did not choose it for themselves. The home
suddenly had a water filtration system! They were devoted to keeping me
comfortable and happy.
I saw the romance, laughter, teasing, love, tenderness
between them that made me change my views about arranged marriages not working.
I realized the success of a marriage has
little to do with pre-arranged or not, it has more to do with the state of
consciousness of the 2 people, and how much they see the other partner in reverence.
This couple was not ‘spiritual’ and did not attend talks on relationships;
however they can be powerful teachers to many on the art of being flexible, being
obedient, considerate and loving each other. I was an eager student learning it
all.
Then God decided it was time for another
revelation. I had a certain health condition where my immune system needed
strengthening. My kidney, liver, heart, lymph, bones, muscles were some of the areas
impacted. Fatigue, fingers and toes ballooned up for 3 weeks and no amount of
herbal supplements worked. Even having raw veggie juices, raw soups did not
help. This was an invitation to get to
deepen my connection to God.
I was scared.
I finally did an ancient Ayurvedic treatment
called PanchKarma and I was introduced to the practitioner, a 62 year old wise
sage who was devoted to her karma (work) and a loving no-nonsense mother.
She saw what
I was not telling her and she started healing me on many levels. After 4 days
of treatment, the sadness in my heart broke the lock and flowed out as tears. I
called out to God in agony. The revelations given were powerful. I had the free will to discover life any way I
desired. I enjoyed some parts and suffered for most parts. Now something in me
was ready to say I SURRENDER! I
realized being an engineer and a high income from Day 1 of my career for 13
years did not keep homelessness away from my life. I had padded myself with security
and when the time came for challenges stemmed from past negative karma, there was
really no protection unless I had conscious collaboration with the Divine in
every step. Walking hand in hand with the Creator allows me to have a sense of
peace deep within, even when the problems exist. I
realized even though I am the doer, there is a GIVER and that is not me!
The person Maya was a very small aspect of it until I realize my God given
powers and embrace it grounded in truth and love. A the end of the meditation, God
responded “My
Way is the HIGH Way”
I cried and I rested.
How Do I Release My Attachment To Dysfunction? A spiritual student ponders...
We are all addicted to dysfunction to some degree. In my journey of releasing my “stuff” that prevents me from living an abundant and joyful life, I noticed there were some areas where I am a dysfunction addict.
For example,
~I love to sit in my sadness and not let go, until I realize that blaming the world for my past really does not help.
~I enjoy my bouts of anger at the Creator, until I realize what my part was in the creation of life’s drama!
~Once in a blue moon I love to indulge in mind blowing anxiety, until I realize I am trying to control something which is no longer in my domain.
So, why am I not letting go of all dysfunctions in record time, when I know it does not serve me?
This is because my conscious mind has not yet convinced the diverse aspects of the unconscious self to coorporate in the journey towards God and grand happiness. My self-mastery is still a work in process.
~My judgmental self loves to blame myself and the world. She would be jobless if she agreed to stop judgments! Maybe I can bless each judgment instead of getting entangled with it.
~My inner child has temper tantrums every so often, until my conscious mind reins her in with logic and love. Maybe I can re-parent her and let this aspect know that I am the one who has to take care of her and not the world.
~My employable self loses interest at working if I don’t have quick gains after reasonable effort. Then the re-parenting by the conscious mind on why instant gratification does not work helps to calm her down. The cincher is when I gently point to her the fact that our fears are preventing success from coming to us. Now, that is when she really becomes humble.
All my diverse selves are all finally cooperating in my desire to manifest happiness every moment by manifesting all my desires grounded in truth and in devotion to my Beloved Creator.
Maybe one day all the aspects within me will completely and undeniably bow to the divine presence within me. That day I will sing Halleluiah!
Until then, I will release each attachment to dysfunction with the same love and devotion a parent uses to coach a tiresome teen or a whiny ten year old!
Patience is mine! Humility is mine! Thank you God for this. So be it!
Does God Hear Me? A spiritual student’s
search for absolute truth
Somewhere in our exploration of life, mastering
challenges, and in the process of discovering happiness, we all come to places
of self doubt, lack of faith, disappointments and a general lack of wellbeing
in all levels of our being.Then a questions
pops up,does
God hear me?
In my experience there is a cycle we repeat, until
we don’t.
Step
1:
A challenge causes us to step away from happiness due to lack of faith in God.
Step
2:
Self doubt sets in to question if we can really master this challenge
successfully.
Step
3:
We release some unwanted fears have an Aha moment and faith is restored. We are
happy.
Step
4:
A bigger challenge awaits us and we are back to step 1.
Each time I lose my faith that God hears me, I
realize it is an opportunity to open my heart a little bit more and surrender
to something greater that is beyond my knowing.
Each cycle is a lesson in humility; in embracing I
really know nothing in the scheme of all things.
I believe the cycle ends when I arrive at a place
where NOTHING sways me from the place of happiness, no matter what life has to
offer. Fear and doubt does not touch me as I now know I have a part and God has
a part. My
part is to make sure my ship stays afloat and I make steady progress to the harbor.
God’s part is in throwing me a lifeline when I am thrown overboard, and hopefully
my unconscious fears will not miss seeing it.
Until that great day of unwavering happiness, I can
gladly say my faith in God is a work in process. I am ready to settle into a
state of OKness in my relationship with God.
-It is OK I don’t know that God hears me, until I
do.
-It is OK the messages I get from God can be
misinterpreted by my unconscious fears, until I don’t.
-It is OK I am in fear living in the unknown, during
a challenge, until clarity is given.
As long as I sit in this place of ‘this is where I am at and I
plan to do better the next moment’, I am OK.If
I don’t take action to release my fears and move to a higher way of living,
then I am caught in the drama which does nothing for my happiness.
I chose to step aside from the drama, each moment,
and create a new life every moment by:
1.Honestly
accepting where I am at today, without denial or self inflation.
2.Owning
the areas that needs change within me, so my outside reality can change.
3.Have
the devotion and perseverance in changing my reality by releasing fears and limiting
beliefs from my unconscious mind.
4.Have
the patience, or not until I do, when I repeat the same ’ol nonsense until I
stop self defeating patterns.
This way, I am being an honest human, embracing her limitations
in humility, and having the courage to dream outrageously to deep dive into happiness
every moment.
My soul is a kick ass teacher. She/He/It is constantly
throwing one challenge after another to see if I am able to catch my
limitations and release it. When I complain, my soul simply gives me more of
the same challenge until I reform and see the hidden blessing.
I now know self doubt is a step in the process of building
my character, so I shine fearlessly with a deeper connection to something which
makes me bow in reverence and cry humble tears. My life is a work in process until
I fully deep dive into the ever present happiness, even when I lose all I hold
as valuable.
I am open to being teachable by all God chooses to
teach me since my life needs improvement, and my unconscious mind needs the
advice of another higher being to help break my denials.
Maybe one day, I will know with zero ambiguity that God Hears Me
Every time. Until then, I will continue cleaning up
my act and owning my ‘stuff’ without denial.
I will continue living a life of truth and speaking
my truth at work and home, without fear of rejection.
I will continue loving myself everyday by having
compassion for my shadows like self inflation, self doubt, and unworthiness or
need to be right. These good ol’ shadows have a purpose to open my heart more
each day, as I have the courage to see them in its fullness without passing the
buck and blaming the universe for my problems.
This life is truly a journey in discovering who I am,
with the knowing God hears me on some days and I have no clue on other days. I
am a work in process.
Fierce Grace - A Call To Release Limited Beliefs Within Us
We cruise along the highway called life,
and one fine morning something is not the same as it was before. A loved one
decides to end the relationship, the salary has been reduced, or a health
challenge came into light. Whatever the challenge is, there is always a hidden
purpose as to why this event took place, and our unconscious mind has the answer.
Maybe our job was just a means to make money with no real joy attached to it.
Maybe the relationship had died long before we got the wake up call. Seeing the
hidden gift through fierce grace is truly what opens our heart to love our self
more and open our mind to consider possibilities we earlier ignored.
Fierce
grace is God’s way of waking us up when we refused to do it on our own.It is fierce grace that cleans up what is not
working and propels us to a higher state of being.
The recent economic crisis has urged many people to evaluate how money
is being spent. Conservative spending has been embraced as seen by the several high
end shops that have gone out of business. We are moving away from the credit
card culture to the savings account culture. It took an economic collapse for
us to make this change. Fierce grace simply rocked us out of our denial. I am
grateful my eyes are now opened.
When fierce grace knocks at my door, I go through the motions of fear,
anger and sadness and then I roll up my sleeves to start my self-improvement
work. The quest begins to release limiting beliefs within me so I can clean up
the old which is not working, to make way for the new higher way of existing. Using the same old limited neuronetwork gives
the same old limited reality. I start the work of creating new neuronetwork in
the brain.
Recently, I had to downsize my home from a 3 bedroom unit to a smaller
1bedroom unit, which included a move from the city to the country. The challenges in store for me were: no
internet connection for 25 days, no utilities like heater, stove, washer dryer
for 15 days in the mountains, and to top it all off I also had problems with
kidney and liver, which stunned me since I am a very health conscious
person.Fierce grace was indeed all over
me! I was angry at God as I considered myself a very honest person, and I am
very conscious of owning my fears everyday and releasing it. So I was sad and
mad at the universe for not supporting me. Lo and behold, I found I was not
really as honest as I thought I was. Being an Author, a Spiritual teacher and a
Computer Engineer with wonderful benefits in Corporate America had given me a
false sense of security and arrogance, which got to be seen in its full
delusion.
I rolled up my sleeves and started my work of communicating with the
unconscious mind to understand the purpose behind each limitation. My
unconscious mind revealed that I really was seeing a very small percentage of
my reality and the rest were filtered, out of fear of change, fear of unknown,
fear of not being the ‘superior’ person my unconscious wanted me to feel. So it
decided to hide its fear of unworthiness by pretending to be a ‘know-it-all’,
and come to quick conclusions with very limited data!At the end result of my cleansing, I had more
flexibility, more humility, more love, more devotion, and more openness to ‘see’
everyone as my equal than ever before. The greatest gift was when I started
having more divine visions and greater knowledge about my reality. Fierce grace
gave me something greater than I ever dreamt. My humility, self love, love for
another has allowed me to receive more divine wisdom from the Beloved Creator.
I have found life to be all about happiness that comes from my courage
to live in absolute truth and taking responsibility for my creations. My happiness lies in releasing fears,
releasing hidden shadows like competitiveness or narcissism and welcoming a
deeper conscious connection to the Supreme Creator.In illusion we cannot ignore our humanity for
a higher divinity. Everything has to be seen and healed in the light of truth. In
this process I have released who I chose not to be anymore, so I can shine
brightly in the full glory of the goodness within me. This is a process and I
am polishing myself every day so I shine brighter and this increases my
happiness meter.
Sometimes we forget where true happiness lies in pursuit of the next
high through material accumulation and mindless activities. When we act from
our center and consciously take decisions from the highest place we have access
to, we create a happier life for us and we stop being the problem for our
society and our environment.
Let us be the solution and clean up our act,
lovingly. Allow fierce grace to reveal all that is hidden so there
are no more fear based actions.
Let us
be the solution and take responsibility for our reality. What did we do
to have a life of depression, lack of connection to anything sacred within and
lack of service? What did we do to lose the simple pleasures in life? Why did
we program our brain to get the high from media and food abuse, instead of the
joy in being in nature and being thrilled at seeing a baby deer frolic? When
did we become this jaded? Did our culture do this to us? No. We did this to us
because we had a choice every moment and our value system also needed some fine
tuning. Once we own our ‘stuff’, then it is just a matter of time to release
all the limiting beliefs associated to the 1st dysfunctional
behavior. Let it all go. Allow fierce grace to be the catalyst to change our
state of being to open heartedness and love. Along the way, we can enjoy the
changes in our reality evolving to be rich and fulfilling as dreams come true.
My journey of seeing the hidden purpose for every fear within my
unconscious has resulted in my book The
Power of Illusion. There are techniques in the book to identify and release
unconscious sabotaging of our desires in order to allow conscious creation of
happiness.
Daily
Affirmation: Thank you God for allowing me see all the conflicting
beliefs and limiting life patterns so I may release it. Thank you God that my
actions are in alignment with that which is the highest, God. So be it.
'Self' Creation
What is ‘Self’ Creation? It is creating a NEW YOU
after seeing the OLD YOU with its fears and limited beliefs is no longer working. When the happiness meter is low, and not consistent, it is time for action and time for change.
It is simple.
If
you do not have gratitude, you do not receive in abundance.
If
you do not have unconditional love, you do not receive unconditional love.
If you do not see your shadows and release the fears, your soul will give some 'opportunity' to release it.
If you do not give in abundance with zero agenda, you do not receive the life you desire.
If you believe you are a victim, you will attract situations where you are victimized.
If you have -ve karma from a past action, that needs to be experienced so you can heal your past by having compassion for who/what is hurting you in the present.
So self creation is simply put as - off with the old
limiting beliefs and on with the new higher thoughts.
Now the complexity lies in your resistance to
change.
Aha! The futile thought is doing the same thing
every day, walking the same walk, but expecting miracles. Well, there are
miracles, it is always there. Fierce Grace has a way of wiping the wind off our sails so we may reform. That is a miracle. You are looking for quick fixes and forgetting to roll up your
sleeves and getting to work
See what is not working honestly. Remember, this is
about going 100%, and not stopping at 50% and believing “I have done enough and
now I want the benefit of the cleanup of 100%”!
Self creation starts now.
What can I create within myself that is luxurious, glowing
and rocking in virtues?
How is my virtue list doing? Good, Bad, Ugly?
VIRTUE
DEFINITION
Acceptance
To allow the past without anger, by seeing the blessing in each challenge.
Courage
A quality of
spirit that enables to walk through fearful situations without running away.
Caution
Avoidance
of rashness, attention to safety.
Curiosity
A desire to find
out and know things.
Determination
Firmness
of purpose.
Devotion
Unwavering love
and commitment toa person, work or
anything fully grounded in truth, and great love.
Discretion
Being
discrete in ones speech, keeping secrets, good boundaries.
Flexibility
Adaptable, able
to be changed to suit circumstances.
Focus
Concentrated
awareness and effort.
Forgiveness
To cease to feel
angry or bitter towards a person fully knowing there is a purpose to every
difficulty in life, and all there is left is to understand the gift within through
emotional healing, and gain greater wisdom. For forgiveness to take place,
the past must be seen fully and healed to the depth needed. Until then
forgiveness may only be a conscious decision, and not an unconscious full
body decision.
Generosity
Giving
without any agenda.
Gentleness
Not pushy,
harsh, rough or severe.
Gratitude
Being
thankful for every breath, every step, every meal, every convenience in life
and everything. This comes from knowing everything that we enjoy is a gift
from God.
Honesty
Truthful;
sincere; not cheating.
Humbleness
Modest;
not arrogant or boastful.
Humor
The ability to
perceive, enjoy, or express what is amusing, comical, incongruous, or absurd.
Impartiality
Fair.
Industry
Diligent,
hardworking.
Innocence
Guileless,
not guilty.
Justice
Fair, impartial,
giving a deserved response.
Kindness
Friendly,
helpful, well meaning. Takes time to do an altruistic act consistently.
Love
A deep, tender
feeling arising from a sense of underlying oneness. Love is a result of
healing the emotions from the past and living in truth, so one can tap into
the wealth of Love already present
within.
Loyalty
Steadfast
in allegiance to one's homeland, government, or sovereign. Faithful to a
person. Can be trusted to show up at any cost.
Moderation
Balance in all
things. Evenness in all things. The avoidance of extremes in one’s actions or
opinions.
Obedience
Willingness
to obey, to be controlled when necessary, to carry out orders.
Openness
Ready and
willing to talk candidly.
Patience
The
ability to endure delay of desires knowing everything comes in God’s time,
and all one can do is release all fears that block the receiving the gift.
Peace
Freedom from
mental agitation; serenity. This is a byproduct of self mastery, which
includes emotional healing.
Prudence
Wise
or careful in conduct. Shrewd or thrifty in planning ahead.
Reliability
Can be trusted
to do something.
Responsibility
Having
control over and accountability for appropriate events.
Sensitivity
Heightened
awareness of oneself and others within the context of social and personal
relationships.
Simplicity
Straightforward;
not complex or complicated. Unpretentious. Does not use the gift of the gab
to manipulate or twist truth into untruth.
Sincerity
Free from
pretense or deceit in manner or actions.
Spontaneity
Natural,
not planned.
Steadfastness
Firm, resolute;
determinedly unwavering.
Strength
A
rock solid center within, unshakable by any challenge. This comes with a
solid connection to the God within, which gives the ability to withstand
anything easily and effortlessly.
Temperance
Moderation and
self-restraint, as in behavior or expression.
Tranquility
Serenely
quiet and peaceful; undisturbed fully knowing you have the ability to master
all challenges that come your way.
Trust
Trusting in self
to complete all agreements made prior to incarnating.
Trustworthiness
Able
to be trusted or depended on; reliable.
A suggestion is to review the above list and pay
attention to the ones that you feel need improvement.
Then take one virtue a day, affirm as soon as you
open your eyes in the morning:
God I am ready to master ( name the virtue)
within me 100%. Thank you God for this. So be it.
Then pay attention the whole day, and every golden
opportunity presented where you are slightly off on that virtue, write to your
unconscious mind at the end of the day and release it. The book The Power of
Illusion has a simple technique to embrace a new way of thinking, acting &
manifesting by releasing the old blocks within the unconscious mind. Next day
take another virtue from the list, even if you are not complete with the first
one. Continue this process until you come to the end of the list. Then start
again and repeat cycle.
Self creation is your job. It is your job is to ensure the
unconscious mind releases limiting thoughts. We cant bypass our 'stuff' for a more 'spiritual' experience. You can only be in denial until that no longer is an option.
So self creation is simple.All that is needed is to love yourself so
much so that, you desire a happy and peaceful life and are willing to do whatever it takes to release fears and master virtues.
Equality
I have experienced not having equality in my life. I was not seen as an equal in relationships, at work and society. As I contemplated on why I created this challenged in my life, I found I was not seeing people as my equal. I had a silent judgmental system within me that was grading people as OK or not OK, based on the color of the skin, profession, education, political views and spiritual affiliations.
I OWNED the denial I was living in, and started looking at past life patterns, and the views from society that were hidden in my unconscious, which allowed this separation. I found I needed more honesty in my life. How can I say I am here to help people and serve God when I have the thoughts of separation every day? What a dysfunctional side I was conveniently ignoring! Then the work began to start seeing all limiting thoughts within me, and understanding the purpose beneath each belief by using the technique listed in my book . As a result of my work, the Universe started being very kind and loving to me. I started receiving more acknowledgments and opportunities from people as I was no longer blocking receiving help from those I earlier had a judgment.
Our unconscious mind is connected to the unconscious mind of ALL. Everyone gets each other thoughts, which is why telepathy exists. My son knows when my thought changes from positive to negative the next moment it happens. I know, to some degree, what my client is in denial of, during a consultation. This inter connection is what enables a spiritual teacher, one who is continuously improving themselves through owning their unconscious fears, to know what is really blocking the student from progressing. If a person is not sensitive, their intuition will not work at its best and the 'real' message is missed. So the question of being taken advantage of, or not receiving what we desire, begs to be clarified by our contemplation process. This is where emotional healers like me can offer assistance.
The unconscious mind records everything. We have always known all about the lousy partner before getting into the painful relationship. We knew all about the victimization before we walked into it. The unconscious did not allow that information to filter into the conscious mind as it thought dysfunction serves a purpose. This is key. Every limiting experience in life is created by your unconscious minds as it 'believes' there is a useful purpose to it. So, understanding the unconscious mind and befriending it is essential to knowing all about your reality, and knowing all about creation and God. My book The Power of Illusion is a wonderful guide to help you achieve deeper realization about your reality and to change the program with unconscious mind.
What causes inequality amongst people?
¨Believing
the thought “we are less thananother”
or “greater than another” is the basis for inequality.
It It starts with the sense of separation
that is created due to insecurity, and it can progress to greater separation
like war.
Why do we have inequality?
Here are some beliefs that create separation
between human beings and a feeling of ‘lesser than’ or ‘greater than’ another: